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How to perform Tantric sex

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What is tantra?

Tantra is an ancient esoteric practice where expanded orgasm is considered a direct path to spiritual enlightenment. Tantra pre-dates Hinduism and Buddhism, but still exists in India and Tibet alongside these mainstream religions. In the West, we've hijacked some of the sexual techniques in our quest for sexual satisfaction. Learning tantra can help you live life to the full.

If you feel disillusioned with sex or have lost your desire for it - or your partner - make it a priority to awaken your libido. Just as Freud considered libido the motivating force in life, tantra assumes that a powerful current of sexual energy flows through our body. Make a commitment to yourself to explore your sensual nature. We all deserve sensual pleasure and sexual fulfillment.

Couples who have brought tantric sex into their bedroom claim that the sexual techniques make for a more fulfilling relationship all round. Love-making lasts much longer the tantric way - instead of a few minutes the whole process lasts hours. And as your sexual connection with yourself and your partner deepens, your desire for sex increases and the quality of your sex life vastly improve.

The good news is Tantric sex isn't 'goal oriented', which means you don't have to work hard at learning what to do.

The trick is to take your mind off your orgasm and instead focus on making foreplay enjoyable and rewarding until you're ready to take it to its natural end.

This is easier said than done of course, so to delay orgasm Tantric sex experts use a variety of methods including meditative techniques, breath control and massage.

What to do

If you want to give it a go, try the following:

Start by turning down the lights and shutting out the rest of the world

Loosen your body: Tantra is about moving energy through the body, so expert Louise Van Der Velde suggests 'shaking your limbs vigorously to energise and unblock your system before you start'.

Stay off the bed: This will trigger the sleep button in your brain, which, according to Louise 'means you'll be settling for a quickie romp instead of deep connection and loving sex, which is ultimately what Tantra is all about.'

Get comfortable: Try lying down with your partner on the floor and slowly start to touch each other, taking your time to leisurely make your way around their body.

Experiment: Try a variety of touches - firm massage, light feathery touches, and gentle stroking. The aim here is to heighten his senses in a slow and intense way so that you're building him to a peak but not taking him all the way and vice versa. Performed in the right way this can prolong sex and your pleasure for hours.

Think about breathing: If you find your mind starts to wander, re-focus on your breathing. Inhale as your partner exhales and vice versa - it can help improve the connection between the two of you and keep your mind on what's happening.

Don't give up: If you don't last beyond 10 minutes, try again. Tantric sex takes time to get to grips with because we're all used to sex in a western way - this means we expect sex to have an obvious start, middle and end.

With practice you can let go of this idea and enjoy sex without thinking about the conclusion as well as be able to control your body so you can delay climax and increase the strength of your orgasms.


1. Sex boosts your immune system. “Honey, I have a headache,” may now be the best reason to have sex! A startling number of physicians are now recognizing how sexual and emotional health affect our entire well being. In other words, how our brain directly impacts our immune system. “We know that people who enjoy a regular, satisfying sex life (i.e. regular orgasms) are less stressed, less depressed and generally more well physically, mentally and emotionally,” says Wendy Strgar, loveologist and CEO of Good Clean Love. In a recent article, Dr. Paul Pearsall, director of Behavioral Medicine at Detroit’s Beaumont Hospital, concludes that many of his patients had experienced sexual dissatisfaction prior to a heart attack. He also claims that sexual contentment leads to less severe headaches and reduced discomfort from arthritis in both genders.

2. Sex burns calories. Oh yeah, forget those fad diets and get busy gettin’ busy. A mere 30-minutes of sex burns 90 calories and while that may not sound impressive, at an average of three times a week, you’re burning 5 pounds in a year! Or, according to Forbes magazine, having sex just twice a week for a year will burn off the equivalent of seven huge spaghetti dinners. Seconds, anyone?

3. Sex relieves pain. Orgasm is one serious narcotic! Oxytocin, a naturally occurring chemical in the body surges during and after climax while working in conjunction with a few other endorphins to make sure you feel no pain. In his book, How to Treat Arthritis, rheumatologist Carter V. Multz asserts that sex can reduce pain, swelling, and inflammation associated with arthritis, headaches and menstrual cramps.

4. Sex decreases aging. “Use it or lose it” has never been more applicable. Regular sex releases a plethora of “happy” chemicals into your bloodstream, including testosterone. As we age, our testosterone levels decrease. Sex is a wonderful way to build your reserves back up, helping build new bones and muscles while putting a youthful glow on your face. According to a study by Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland and co-author of Superyoung, men and women who reported having sex an average of four times per week looked approximately 10 years younger than they really were.

5. Sex is great for depression. “The release from orgasm does much to calm people. It helps with sleep, and that is whether we talk about solo sex or sex with a partner,” says Jennifer Bass, the head of information services at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction in Bloomington, Ind., in a recent MSNBC article. Researchers believe that sex helps the brain produce serotonin which, in turn, prompts new neurons to grow. Most chemical, antidepressant medications, like Zoloft, work to increase serotonin levels. These drugs take three to four weeks to begin working–about the same amount of time required for new neurons to form. One reason these drugs could be an effective treatment is because they increase cell growth–just as sex does.

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SexTips 13 years
Thanks! I have 2 books ready to be published already.
Anonymous user 11 years
Very informative.
Anonymous user 11 years
Informative article. Sex two, three, or four times a week, in my dreams. I am lucky if I get once a week and that comes with struggle. Very frustrating.
Anonymous user 11 years
"Sex two, three, or four times a week, in my dreams. I am lucky if I get once a week and that comes with struggle. Very frustrating."

I promise you that will change. Prepare for a wonderful sex life.
Anonymous user 11 years
i want to share my bed with another woman in addition to mw wife,how it is possible?
Anonymous user 11 years
This information needs to be factual.
Anonymous user 11 years
very informative and we (my partner & I) are committed to exploring new possibilities with these tantric techniques.
Anonymous user 10 years
I like the bit that says sex releases testosterone which can grow new bones.
Anonymous user 10 years
Am mature man ...without partner ..any women out there that want to try tantric on-line?
Anonymous user 10 years
This is more educational about the benefits of sex from a health perspective...Does not focus on the spirituality of Tantra,,,,,find a different article.
Anonymous user 9 years
This is good for married couples however young people and christian singles please abstain or risk heartbreak, Sexually Transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
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